Beyoncé Knowles Carter is one of the most dominant female pop artists the world has seen. Married to “Jay-Z” (Sean Carter), Beyoncé is one-half of a billionaire entertainment power couple. She’s released fragrances, starred in films, and double dates with the President and First Lady. And while lots of people get invited to the White House, none yet had the First Lady say in People Magazine that if she could be anyone in the world, she would be them. Mrs. Carter has arrived.

Beyoncé released her latest work, the self-titled video album “Beyoncé,” without any advertising. This proved her pop prowess as fans and critics rushed to download the album. This latest project is a good place to start when thinking about the images she portrays of Black women.

Beyoncé’s Goal: Redefining (Black) Womanhood

In many respects the project is a comment on beauty itself. From the opening track, “Pretty Hurts,” Beyoncé seems to call us to serious self-reflection about “prettiness” and the self-destructive lengths some travel to attain it (eating disorders, surgeries, etc.). She makes a worthy attempt to move the discussion beneath the skin to the essence of our humanity, as the chorus chides:

Try to fix something but you can’t see,
It’s the soul that needs a surgery…

She tells us we “ain’t got no doctor or pill that can take the pain away; the pain is inside and nobody frees you from your body… it’s my soul that needs surgery.”

Beyoncé’s most critical reflections come in the cut “Flawless,” where she samples feminist thinker Chimimanda Ngozi Adichie’s probing critique of the messages we send to our girls:

“We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller. We say to girls: ‘You can have ambition, but not too much. You should aim to be successful, but not too successful. Otherwise, you will threaten the man.’ Because I am female, I am expected to aspire to marriage. I am expected to make my life choices always keeping in mind that marriage is the most important. Now, marriage can be a source of joy and love and mutual support. But why do we teach girls to aspire to marriage and we don’t teach boys the same? We raise girls to see each other as competitors—not for jobs or for accomplishments, which I think can be a good thing. But for the attention of men. We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings in the way that boys are.” (listen to entire TED Talk)

The most charitable reading of Beyoncé ’s self-titled album is that she’s calling for a world where a woman’s soul matters far more than her body and a world where boys and girls receive the same message about their purpose and potential. I like that vision. That’s a world worth working for. As a father of two girls, I resonate on some level with Queen Bey and Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie.

Why Beyoncé’s Work Thwarts Her Goal

But Beyoncé confuses and contradicts the best possibilities in her music. Her picture of womanhood needs serious repair. Why?

She Reinforces Beauty Stereotypes. Though Beyoncé the album starts with promise, it recapitulates the worst stereotypes about feminine beauty. “Pretty Hurts” features an unhappy contestant smashing trophies but still finds her sitting in her swimsuit in a sensual position. “No Angel” opens with the protest, “underneath the pretty face is something complicated,” but goes on to approvingly flash scenes of strippers . In “Yoncé” she proudly tells us “man ain’t never seen a booty like this.” By the end that’s all man is seeing.

Mrs. Carter appears in a swimsuit (and far less!) in almost every video on the album. If pictures are worth a 1,000 words, these pictures repeatedly say “beauty is body” and  “pretty” is synonymous with “very nearly nude.” In the end, Beyoncé seems imprisoned in the superficial emphasis on outward appearance she laments in some of the tracks.

She Demolishes Feminine Virtue. Recall Adichie’s objection, “We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings in the way that boys are.” Beyoncé shows us exactly what it looks like if Adichie’s comment is taken to mean girls should be sexual beings in all the aggressive and physical ways boys are sometimes permitted. It’s not pretty. If most men are commonly regarded as “dogs,” then the women who emulate them can only be female dogs. Is there any wonder that in hip-hop and pop culture women often use the b-word to refer to themselves and other women? That’s what happens when women wish to match men in sexual depravity. Someone should stop and ask, “Why should a woman want to be equal with male perversion?” Aren’t there some higher heights for our daughters and sisters to achieve?

In Beyoncé’s videos we learn the truth of the proverb: “Like a gold ring in a pig’s snout is a beautiful woman who shows no discretion” (Prov. 11:22). We’re witnessing the demolition of feminine virtue and discretion. You cannot elevate what you demolish. This form of feminism doesn’t have within itself a guardrail for protecting distinctively feminine virtues. Rather, it often eviscerates what it claims to liberate.

She Glamorizes Juvenile Notions of Womanhood. Now, I suspect Beyoncé might say, as some feminists do, that her sexuality is a kind of liberation and “voice.” She now owns and uses her body the way men do. For her, this is what it is to be a woman.

Yet Beyoncé’s discography suggests she holds an immature and incomplete definition of womanhood. The track “Grown Woman” gives us her working definition in the refrain, “I’m a grown woman, I can do whatever I want.” In some respects that’s her mantra. If this video album gives us the vision she associates with her lyrics, then from “Haunted” to “Glow” she’s telling us that “whatever I want” means “sex when and how I want”—not meaningful accomplishment and achievement as a woman.

But is “I can do whatever I want” really a “grown woman’s” main quality? That’s a rather juvenile approach. How many parents have heard this very outburst—“I’m grown and I can do what I want!”—from their rebellious teenagers? Which parent did not immediately explain that such a view was proof of immaturity? At the heart of womanhood (and manhood also) is self-control—which means adulthood often requires not doing “whatever you want” and often doing a lot of things you don’t want. Beyoncé’s CD actually encourages an extended adolescence that masks itself as Black female beauty and autonomy.

She Sells Sex. Ultimately, Beyoncé unabashedly sells sexual fantasy to her fans. When a U.K. newspaper calls your album “the most X-rated pop album since Madonna’s Erotica” — it’s clear you’ve crossed some lines. Beyoncé knows this, too. She sings about it:

I do it like it’s my profession,
I gotta make a confession,
I’m proud of all this bass,
Let me put it in your face,
(from “Rocket”; emphasis added)

Queen Bey wants us to think we see a woman, in control, powerful, even “flawless.” She wants you to think you could either be her or have her as she teases in “Rocket.” It’s always about her derriere and as she says in “Rocket” the “mass appeal” she gets from it.

But this fantasy destroys both men and women. I’m not sure it’s too much to say that her videos are a kind of soft porn. With pornography enslaving more and more women, we need to be careful that little brown girls don’t develop the sense that sex is a commodity or an asset to be wielded for comfort, pride and/or profit. If we raise our daughters and sons on a steady dose of Beyoncé, they’ll no doubt miss the deeply spiritual and satisfying pleasure of sexual intimacy in the context of marriage and covenant fidelity. They’ll think the meaningless act produces joy, rather than realizing joyful commitment infuses the act with meaning. And we’ll lose another generation of African-American girls to body-ravaging, soul-destroying worldliness and sin.

She Presents a Sad View of Marriage. Finally, Beyoncé presents us with a tragic view of marriage. We applaud her and Jay-Z for apparently doing things in proper sequence. First they marry; then they begin a family. They model the healthy family formation that social science and common wisdom teach is so necessary. Sometimes this peeks through in the album. For example, I’m grateful for the artistically beautiful “Mine,” which includes the chorus: “This is a song for the good girl… All I can think of is we should get married.” Praise God for the promotion of so positive a message. When the Carters appear with the likes of the President and Mrs. Obama, the images of their marriages represent something quite powerful and sadly rare in much of the African-American community. As Christians, we know they’re presenting a portrait of Christ and His bride, the church (Eph. 5:22-32).

Yet sadly, it’s a marred picture. For where Christ sacrifices himself for His bride, in the lyrics and videos on this album Jay-Z exploits his. In “Partition” Jay sits back to enjoy his wife’s private show, made public for the world’s consumption. In “Drunk in Love,” Jay channels his inner Ike Turner, demanding Tina to “Eat the cake!”—a reference conjuring images of domestic abuse. His “love” is really a kind of violent conquest.

Is this what we’d expect of a husband and want for our daughters? Shouldn’t he—and every man—protect the virtue of his bride? I’m screaming, “Jay! C’mon, man! If you like it put some clothes on it!”

This is what Christ does for the Church, washing her in the water of the word, making her more radiant in His robes of righteousness. It may be too much to ask a non-Christian husband to emulate Christ in a fulsome way. But we ought not forget that marriage is a creation ordinance; it’s pre-Christian, which means every marriage ought to reflect a cherishing and protecting love. Not only does this album give us the wrong picture of womanhood; it compounds that problem by giving us a woefully sad picture of manhood and marriage, too.

Art Creating Reality

Why should we even care about any of this? Well, because we love our sisters—including Beyoncé. And, as a pastor, I’m well aware that sexual purity is the number one discipleship issue the church faces. It has been since the apostles called a council meeting in Jerusalem in Acts 15.

Our sons and daughters arrive at our churches saturated in sensuality. The images of a Beyoncé video play over and over in their heads. They’ve listened to the lyrics hundreds of times. We have the difficult duty and personal privilege of trying to bend their thoughts and desires back to the Scripture. If we don’t know what we’re contending with we can’t hope to be effective. I care about this issue because it’s twisting our daughters’ thinking about the most intimate matters of life and their sense of self-worth.

Beyoncé is correct. The soul needs surgery. The kind of “pretty” the world promotes really does hurt. I’m sad she furthers the hurt with the exploitation of those bankrupt worldly ideals. Only the Great Physician can cure our communities of the brokenness that calls itself “beauty” even as it defiles womanhood itself. We need our daughters to understand true beauty and the true Perfection of Beauty. Instead of Beyoncé’s gratuitous displays, we need more of this kind of video and poetry. Here’s a visual display of beauty and womanhood as it should be modeled.

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41 Comments

  • Avatar Tabulous says:

    Great post brother,

    I love the way you ended with Blair’s poem (the best part of that album in my humble opinion). I listen to Christian Hip Hop 99.95 of the times, so I don’t really get a feel for what’s out there in the music industry if it’s not advertised on Rapzilla.com. So, your post was right on time for me. As the father of 2 daughters and one son, I realized long ago that my wife and I have our work cut out for us in the beauty and self-worth department for our children… our daughters in particular. I now realize how much harder my task will be after youtube’ing some of the videos that you referenced. It’s a little sad, but there is hope in the person and work of Jesus Christ (but it’s still hard).

    On a side note, I like how your classified marriage as a creation ordinance.

    To God be the Glory!

  • Avatar jeremy jackson says:

    amen

  • Avatar Thabiti says:

    Thanks for hangin’ around the porch and dropping some encouragement. I appreciate it!
    T-

  • Avatar Rising Spivey says:

    Everyone is entitled to their opinion. However I do want to comment on one small piece. —–> The writer says: “But is “I can do whatever I want” really a “grown woman’s” main quality” …. It’s interesting that he listened to this song and THAT was what he got from it. I don’t think Beyonce said that the MAIN QUALITY of being grown is being able to do what she wants. Is there even a MAIN QUALITY of being grown at all? The song says she can do what she wants because she is grown. I don’t know how it could be interpreted any other way. That song pretty much is for people like this writer who think that THEIR rules apply to everyone else. The standards of the writer (and anyone else who over analyzes Beyonce’s artistry rather than just enjoying it or simply turning off the TV) are not standards that Beyonce must follow. Or anyone for that matter. Other than maybe his daughter who I assume is a grown woman herself now… (if he even has children, idk).. As a matter of fact, if Beyonce were any less Beyonce and more like ummm the 50 year oldish male writer responsible for this article, she wouldn’t be as successful as she is today. Let people live their life. When you put them in a box, you disappoint yourself. She’s an entertainer. Not a school teacher. Not a deaconess. Not a Congresswoman. She’s talented and sexy and there is nothing wrong with that. How can I reject how another Black woman depicts herself. Beyonce doesn’t carry a torch for all black women. She doesn’t represent us all. She represents herself. And she has a right to do so however she pleases. This sister supports her and any other black woman proudly living their life to their full potential. Everyone wasn’t born to think and walk like a 50 year old pastor. Thank God!

  • Avatar LHook says:

    I think that by adding the line “I can do whatever I want” to the chorus of the track infers that Beyonce believes this virtue is a key privilege of being “grown”. She’s not a teacher, deaconess etc. etc. but the reality is she has a platform that reaches millions of people. Whether she wants to or not, she influences hundreds of thousands of women and young adolescents who adore and idolize her. Why not use that platform to promote a more promising self identity for women?

    I don’t see the writer saying that Beyonce should or has to conform to his recommendations, I think he is just showing us the some of the major flaws in the way she presents black womanhood to us, and that we personally shouldn’t accept it. As a hip hop head, i don’t follow Beyonce at all, this article was very enlightening.

  • Avatar Thabiti says:

    Dear Rising Spivey,

    Thank you for joining us on The Front Porch, and for taking the time to drop us your thoughts. I’m grateful you would care enough about these issues to share an opinion.

    Let me offer two thoughts in response.

    First, Beyonce tells us that the visuals reveal what she associates with the lyrics. It’s a ground-breaking visual album, so the images along with the words convey the artist’s meaning. In this case, it’s nearly impossible to miss her meaning because nearly every song features irresponsible sexual attitudes and actions. “I can do whatever I want” gets visually interpreted as sex all the time and becomes the justification for what it means to be a “grown woman” (the title of the track). Beyonce is making that claim lyrically and visually. It’s not taking it out of context.

    Second, there are things we commonly think of as defining what it means to be “grown.” Usually, we think that includes things like maturity, ability to provide your own needs, and responsible behavior. In nearly every culture in human history some mix of virtues like that have defined adulthood. And at least since the rise of independent youth cultures, most societies reject the idea that “being grown” means doing “whatever you want” without regard for how you affect others or the consequences of your action. I don’t think Beyonce is pushing back against people like me as much as she’s pushing back against decency and virtue itself. It’s not even a matter of MY RULES needing to apply to everyone. I don’t think that. It’s a matter of whether ANY RULES of decency and virtue apply. If we say no, then we’re really proving my point. If we say yes, then we have to have some intelligent conversation about which standards apply and how. That, in my opinion, is a conversation worth having for the sake of the well-being of all our sons and daughters. And I agree with L Hook below. Putting this in the chorus as a qualifying phrase for “I am a grown woman” does indeed suggest that Beyonce sees this as a main ingredient or key to being “grown.”

    Finally, I suspect you’ll want some norms for responsible and decent adult behavior. I’m certain you don’t find it all that “talented and sexy” if another woman were “doing whatever she wants” with your boyfriend/husband/significant other. I suppose you wouldn’t want a man whose addicted to porn and fantasizes about another woman when he’s with you. I’m guessing you wouldn’t want to raise a daughter who is sexually promiscuous or a son who abuses women. I suspect you’d find all of that inappropriate and want to see an end to it or an end to the relationship because you’re obviously a thoughtful, self-respecting person yourself. We all have standards. It comes down to whether or not we’re going to be thoughtful about them and consistent with them.

    You’re certainly correct when you say Beyonce doesn’t represent all black women. I’d go a step further and say she probably doesn’t want to. But she does have a message she’s speaking through her music. As the first video in this post shows, she’s self-conscious about that message and she thinks it’s worth hearing. I think we treat Beyonce with more dignity not less when we take the message seriously and engage it thoughtfully. That’s what I’ve tried to do here because I think what she’s saying is actually quite destructive of women and men.

    Holla back if you like. We always enjoy having folks join us on the porch to share their thoughts. We can take as much as we give and we learn a lot from the exchange.

    Much love to you,
    T-

    P.S.–I still have some time before I’m 50-ish :-). Don’t make a brutha old before his time!

  • Avatar CL Edwards says:

    “Everyone is entitled to their opinion.” ” That song pretty much is for people like this writer who think that THEIR rules apply to everyone else. The standards of the writer (and anyone else who over analyzes Beyonce’s artistry rather than just enjoying it or simply turning off the TV) are not standards that Beyonce must follow. ”

    #Romans1, Attacking a Christian for daring to publicly critique(because critiquing other’s is a violation of their “right to do…however she pleases” hmmm) one of this societies idols and priestess of hedonism… from a Christian worldview(oh gage!) … and doing it by holding the Christian to your own post modern “rules” that you presume are standards he must follow, being condescending, and sneaky… how thoughtful, novel and original! That comment clearly conveys the truth of the “rule” that you must ” Let people live their life”, obviously a rule that applies to famous modern burlesque singers …but not “50” year old male preachers.

    To the author great post, great apologetics and keep up the good work,

  • Avatar CW says:

    This. was. great. Thank you.

  • Avatar george canady says:

    Some times I wonder what happens to beautiful talented women when their season in the sun is over. I wonder if they look back and wish that those who loved them would have stayed loyal when the shiny came off. My heart breaks for those women who wind up alone when the party is over. It seems this is not always followed up on by those who promote them when they are popular, and maybe she won’t end bad anyway; maybe just fade away. Who knows?. But I’m not a pastor and I don’t have daughters and I am 50ish. I took my first wife for granted like this and she paid the price later. I greave for her now and this singer as men like I was will not give her the time of day 30 years from now. I am ashamed of that now, and I live with the consequences; but gratefully forgiven. I have much respect for anyone who overcomes continual adversity, but still I (pray right now) for Beyoncé to know the truth of true beauty that the knowledge of Jesus brings. I know this pastor prays for her and you as if ya’ll were his daughters.

  • Avatar Annunaki-Bred says:

    This was a very good, well-written article. It stirred me to really think about the act of sex and why we demonize it so. Beyonce’s sensual lyrics stimulate men to passion. Jay Z’s Ike Turner reference and its dominating tone stimulates many women to passion. Sex is how each one of us got here; a moment of passion shared between our parents. Was that dirty? Christianity and Catholicism cast sexual relations as dirty and perverse, but ask yourself how you came to be where you are at this moment.

    I thought Beyonce’s lyric in her song Partition, “He Monica Lewinskyed all on my gown” was lewd and unnecessary. But then I wondered why I thought that. Why do we view a husband’s ejaculation as dirty? Is it not a husband’s right to be stimulated to sexual release? Didn’t God engineer the penis to shoot semen out? It landing on her dress…why is that considered degrading to the woman? Where else is it supposed to go? Sex is such a very natural thing. How can something that created us to be considered perverse? Religion teaches us to be ashamed of things that are really not shameful at all.

    I also pondered the poem by Adiche. It suggests women should compete with each other for career (money) rather than other women. Okay…but why do we view employment making someone else rich to be more commendable than raising healthy children and a strong family? Is it better to birth children and thenn leave them to be raised instead by a Child Care Worker? We’ve been trained to think career success, money, awards and promotions are the hallmarks of success but WHY IS THE PURSUIT OF MONEY the goal of life?

    Again, this was a very well-written and thought provoking article. I especially appreciated the biblical references (which I referred to on biblegateway.com).

  • Avatar Shaniqua Brown says:

    God intended for sex to be between a husband and his wife, not a husband, his wife, and all of their billions of fans. It’s simply the fact of how she is using what God created to be good and Holy, and private. My intimate relations with my husband and I are no one else’s business but ours. Beyonce’ is sharing her sexual encounters with a mass of single and adolescent females. God just did not intend for us to flaunt and pervert our intimate lifestyle with people outside of our marriage. I do not believe the writer of this article was trying to say a man does not have a right to be stimulated, or that ejaculation is a sin, it just should not be public information.

  • Avatar Shaniqua Brown says:

    This article was great. Thank you for sharing with us. I stopped listening to Beyonce’ and a host of secular artists by the time I got to college back in 2008. I am now married and thinking of starting a family soon and I just can’t imagine how parents deal with the influence of media on their children these days. I don’t blame everything on Beyonce’, but she can’t be serious to think she is empowering women when she presents herself the way she does and sings about the most immature topics. None of her music has any substance that I could compare to other artists such as India Arie. She thinks she wants to make a difference, but she just wants to stay relevant.

  • Avatar HR says:

    But she will continue to stay on top and dominate everyone else in the industry, She’s grown and that’s that. Beautiful and talented. I find it hard to believe a man wrote this… Interesting.

  • Avatar Pastor Bruce says:

    I think you’ve hit the nail on the head brother. We should engage. Rising Spivey is right when she says (not the 50 year old male part) “…As a matter of fact, if Beyonce were any less Beyonce and more like ummm the 50 year oldish male writer responsible for this article, she wouldn’t be as successful as she is today.” Yeah, she’s successful alright… talented and pretty and…. Yes, sex sells and you can make loads of money – just ask Hugh Hefner. So yes, she’s successful and ‘success’ brings influence. As a minister I check out almost EVERYTHING that influences the people – particularly the younger generation. I then present a Biblical model for whatever the issue is; and guess what? Anybody who happens to pick up a Bible and read it will have a terrible problem trying to reconcile what Beyonce does compared to what’s in God’s word. In fact Rising Spivey is right again, Beyonce can do what she wants, spread those legs and gyrate those hips. Role model for Black women? Evidently for some. Role model for any serious Black (or White) Christian woman? Hmmm.

  • As I was reading this, I felt my ‘upbringing’ arise and a hearty ‘preach, preacher!!!’ resounded in my heart! This is great stuff! Thanks so much for your commitment to Truth!!!

  • Avatar MsGee Carvin says:

    My God, this is a POWERFUL!!! piece. God bless you for even taking the time to even listen to the album which is something that I would not have done. This article is worth discussing in a small group of young teen girls. Thank you for the Front Porch!

  • Avatar Rising Spivey says:

    omg I actually didn’t know this was a Christian site until I was just about finished typing my comment earlier. I should have just deleted it.. Had I known I wouldn’t even have bothered reading the article from to begin with.. You can’t debate with Christians. With all due respect SOME Christians are the most closed minded individuals walking earth. Carry on.

  • Avatar C.L Edwards says:

    How ironic…you come off as extremely closed minded intolerant and judgmental..funny how you can see in others what you refuse to see in yourself.

  • Avatar Thabiti says:

    Dear Rising Spivey,

    I’m sorry you’ve had that experience with some Christians. It’s true; some Christians can be quite closed minded. That’s also true of non-Christians as well, though. But we want you to know you’re welcome on The Front Porch anytime, whether you happen to agree or disagree with anything written here. I hope you’ve found that I’ve engaged your comments honestly and would hope to do that anytime you drop by.

    The Lord bless you and keep you,
    Thabiti

  • Avatar Bea Houseoffashion says:

    This woman can’t sell a record without being half naked on stage. She knows she is not a great singer. That’s what we are talking about.

  • Avatar george canady says:

    Sometime I think I may have stumbled in to something I should take some time to investigate. Other times I think it was arranged. I’m just sayin.

  • Avatar george canady says:

    The best sex no one ever heard about IS between a husband, a wife as the initial lack of details God makes increasingly known to them only, as they unselfishly practice biblically this good and Godly thing in the bond of a Christian marriage. Is It possible we are looking for an example of healthy sex that God only describes in metaphors. Is it possible that the faithful, godly, quite, kind, content, 80 year old widow that sat in front of us in church 30 years ago could have had a full sex life that she never talked about?

  • Avatar Realistically says:

    Instead of another critical article on Beyonce, I would like to see an in-depth exploration of the Church’s tendency to suppress sexuality and its effect on young men and women. Why aren’t we taught how to creatively and healthfully express our sexual nature? Why doesn’t the Church acknowledge the ineffectiveness of the abstinence message? Why is it considered natural to abstain from a God-given desire for 28+ years? I would much rather hear these answers than another re-formulated critique on a pop star who could care less.

  • Avatar Realistically says:

    “God just did not intend for us to [share] … our intimate lifestyle with people outside of our marriage.” Says who? Is this just tradition or is this scriptural?

  • Avatar george canady says:

    I was thinking about Jesus and the church and how He gives Himself up for her and how me as a Christian man is to do that for my wife. I can tell you that one way of doing that is in my secret life with her in our room. If people truly know what scripture says about sex they would stop asking “what does that fox see in him”. That’s her secret. I encourage you to check out this pastors take on this in the Song of Songs. I’m no pastor, just a satisfied and content middle aged Christian man of little status.

  • Avatar Thabiti says:

    Hi Realistically,

    Welcome to The Front Porch. Great questions. How would you answer them or what messages would you want to relay? Kick us off and we will jump in.

    By the way, love the profile picture.
    T

  • Avatar K.A.L says:

    The article was a good read, but nowhere did you say anything that had to do with being black. All of your talking points apply to women as a whole, and you limit youself by focusing on the fact that she is black

  • Avatar TheBapo says:

    I have the joy to share this article with students that God has allowed me to have an influence on. From my job with Middle School students to students in church and girls around the block. This has sparked phenomenal conversations about the gospel and what beauty truly is in Christ. Thank you for sharing this.

  • Avatar Thabiti Anyabwile says:

    Hey bro,

    Great to hear from you on The Front Porch! Thanks for joining the conversation and sharing that encouraging note. I pray the Lord bears much fruit! Hoping to connect next time I’m in your neck of the woods.

    Grace and peace,
    T-

  • Avatar Realistically says:

    If you view yourself as a representative of the church, I would like to hear your answers first.

  • Avatar Breeee250 says:

    Unfortunately, that is a sad question. But since you would share your practices with others, mind you inciting lust in some one else, don`t be mad when someone else does all the things to your man that they know he likes because YOU told them about it. LOL. That is wisdom. But for scriptural purposes, the male and the female become one flesh and are both subject to God. So God said it. Ephesian 5. My people perish for lack of KNOWLEDGE. Please read your Bible.

  • Avatar Breeee250 says:

    Revelation 21:8″ But the fearful and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars shall have their part in the lake which burns with fire and brimstone: which is the second death. ” Unfortunately for the unbelievers, the wages of sin is death. Inciting lust is a sin. And the Bible speaks that a woman should dress in modest apparel. But some say, I can wear and do what I want. Trying to be like celebrities or these “idols” and then can`t make change to find the baby daddy. These celebrities aren`t giving away money to help these children that decided to rebel against their parents or the Bible when the chickens come home to roost. They are looking for loop holes to keep from paying full taxes. Lets be for real. I am a 31year old married mother of 8. I am a Christian and I love Jesus which means I am free to love others and I know what it is to love my self. Jesus didn`t lay down His life for us to strip naked in front of the world. And no, I am not out off shape or unhappy.The Bible foretold these things happening. Read it

  • Avatar Breeee250 says:

    For everyone that is defending this immoral behavior, I wonder if this said person would take time out to defend you against Jesus when he comes back. I think not. and if so many support or love Beyonce, I suggest that you all pray for her soul, that she may be saved before its too late. Not only just for her, but for all the little girls, boys and lustful men that enjoy these performances.

  • Avatar Realistically says:

    … none of this answered my questions.

  • Avatar Mike Olivia says:

    This is my testimony about the good work of a man who helped me..My name is Olivia Jane Mike, and I base in London.My life is back!!! After 8 years of marriage, my husband left me and left me with our three kids. I felt like my life was about to end,and was falling apart. Thanks to a spell caster called papa Justus who i met online. On one faithful day, as I was browsing through the internet, I was searching for a good spell caster that can solve my problems. I came across series of testimonies about this particular spell caster. Some people testified that he brought their Ex lover back, some testified that he restores womb, some testified that he can cast a spell to stop divorce and so on. There was one particular testimony I saw, it was about a woman called grace,she testified about how papa Justus brought back her Ex lover in less than 72 hours and at the end of her testimony she drop papa Justus e-mail address. After reading all these,I decided to give papa a try. I contacted him via email and explained my problem to him. In just 3 days, my husband came back to me. We solved our issues, and we are even happier than before. papa Justus is really a talented and gifted man and i will not to stop publishing him because he is a wonderful man…If you have a problem and you are looking for a real and genuine spell caster to solve that problem for you. Try the great papa Justus today, he might be the answer to your problem. Here’s his contact:
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    (1)If you want your ex back.
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    10)Help bringing people out of prison
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    (12)Miracle Spells
    (13)Beauty Spells
    (14)PROPHECY CHARM
    (15)Attraction Spells
    (16)Evil Eye Spells
    (17)Kissing Spell
    (18)Remove Sickness Spells
    (19)ELECTION WINNING SPELLS
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  • Avatar polina says:

    She just doesn’t get it.

  • Avatar Sheela Grant says:

    Abstinence is possible. One must abstain from watching & reading things that are sexually enticing, pray to God for His power. If He created everything including human reproductive organs, He can help us to control how we use them. As to why this is important, it’s good to ask Him this also & study the bible. It’s bad for a church to just teach abstinence without helping others to rely on the great power of God & to understand the sacredness of our bodies, sex & child-bearing & that abstinence is actually possible. There are so many broken families & homeless children in the U.S. because people are “hooking up” & having children before they are ready. Also, it’s good to speak to older people who have been happily married for decades & to see how they did it. God is not telling us to negate our sexuality as humans, He does tell us what will work best. The problem is most people, even in the church, don’t have enough faith to rely on God’s power & to remain a virgin until marriage. God’s way does help a married couple (1 man & 1 woman) to relate to each other not just sexually, but at a deeper spiritual level. Peace!

  • Avatar Sheela Grant says:

    Please don’t let the actions of many Christians stop you from researching Jesus Christ. There’s a saying, “Catch them before you clean them” which means that God welcomes every human on earth, then once He saves them, He works with them to make any changes they need to make. Therefore you will find all sorts of people in the church including criminals, pedophiles, severely uneducated folks who have trouble understanding even basic things. But God loves all humans. There are also educated, understanding, non-judgemental people in the church. As a Christian I was taught that it’s about accepting God’s gift of redemption to humans to rescue us from a dying world, not being perfect & judging others. Peace!

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